I have no doubt you will help other people who read this and see their own story or someone they love stuck in an emotionally abusive relationship. It helps others know they are not alone, and that there is no shame in asking for help to break free. Part of the abuse tactic is isolation so often people feel they have no one to turn to for immediate safety. It isn't easy and it can get ugly when authorities are involved and often financially devastating but help is out there. The alternative of staying with someone who abuses you is worse.
My wife describes her first marriage in much the same language. Last week, after 20+ years together, she experienced what can only be described as a flashback, instantly reliving a horrid incident with her ex, after I asked her a simple question. She ended up in tears, shaking, apologizing, trying to explain why she snapped at me. The terror and hurt I saw in her eyes was frightening. I'm glad to say this sort of thing has become very rare because our marriage is 180 degrees different, by God's good graces, but I guess that trauma is always under the surface. My heart and prayers go out the those who have suffered this way.
Trauma has a way of staying around and bubbling up when we least expect it. That’s way we say something triggered us. It’s quick and comes out of nowhere at times. Your wife is healing and you are a big part of that.
I have no doubt you will help other people who read this and see their own story or someone they love stuck in an emotionally abusive relationship. It helps others know they are not alone, and that there is no shame in asking for help to break free. Part of the abuse tactic is isolation so often people feel they have no one to turn to for immediate safety. It isn't easy and it can get ugly when authorities are involved and often financially devastating but help is out there. The alternative of staying with someone who abuses you is worse.
Thank you for your kindness and support.
My wife describes her first marriage in much the same language. Last week, after 20+ years together, she experienced what can only be described as a flashback, instantly reliving a horrid incident with her ex, after I asked her a simple question. She ended up in tears, shaking, apologizing, trying to explain why she snapped at me. The terror and hurt I saw in her eyes was frightening. I'm glad to say this sort of thing has become very rare because our marriage is 180 degrees different, by God's good graces, but I guess that trauma is always under the surface. My heart and prayers go out the those who have suffered this way.
Trauma has a way of staying around and bubbling up when we least expect it. That’s way we say something triggered us. It’s quick and comes out of nowhere at times. Your wife is healing and you are a big part of that.