I have a 32-year-old liberal daughter who does this and every time she comes over in her pj bottoms I have just given her a look, and she seems to have stopped doing it. At least when she comes over here any ways. She started doing that when she went away to college.
Shame is a necessary physiological function, and one of our 10 core emotions. I have a whole video series on it, but here's the shortcut to shame and guilt.
Much of this anti-public-pajama attention (with which I am generally in agreement) focuses on females, but there is (I think) an often ignored male equivalent: sweatpants. Somehow these have migrated from athletic gear to semi-formal wear, and it's as unfortunate a trend as public pajamas. (I say this as someone who spent much of his 20s running around in public in his underwear, until shame kicked in.)
I favour an appropriate degree of applied shame in public; not too much, not too little. We have too little at the moment. That said, The Food Professor's posting of photos of actual individual humans seems like a little too much.
For "shaming" to be effective, the people being shamed have to have a sense of shame; i.e., an understanding that what they are doing is wrong. That, unfortunately, is missing from many people today (of all ages).
Was the young woman responding to your photo, or was this pulled from somewhere else? If it was you, my apologies for the stupidity of the young woman. I was stupid once as well - it is painful to hear their nonsense and I often wonder if I was just as bad with my babbling.
Shame is essential for a culture. It can go very wrong - like stoning a woman to death for binging 'shame' to the family, but a functional society uses it appropriately. I don't want my airline pilot in pajamas and I assume that goofy young women does not either. You intuitively know if someone can't pay attention to their uniform, they may not be paying attention to other more important things. It isn't just pajamas. So many are so fat. If grocery stores had truth in advertising, most of the items would be deemed hazardous. This, of course, would include my wine, which is a vice I am not giving up.
Fun article! However, I didn't know that PJs in public was a liberal trend. My very liberal young adult daughter finds the trend lame and stupid (and would probably not be caught wearing PJs in public even if the house WAS on fire). I also find it ridiculous. It's odd that you see it mostly limited to women - I actually see more young men doing it. However, if we are talking about demographic groups, I think it is almost exclusively white people under 45 who do it. Finally, I don't think it's something worth shaming. Yes, most of them are just being slobs. But you may end up taking a picture of a frantic mom who had to urgently drive to a pharmacy to pick up her sick kid's meds and electrolytes. Kinda not worth it. I'd save shaming for truly shameful things - like men entering female spaces or women cheering such men.
Shame is not to be saved for special occasions, but rather it's a "hold the line everywhere" type of thing that's devolved into far more degenerative societal behaviors. See my comment below and video for more!
I have a 32-year-old liberal daughter who does this and every time she comes over in her pj bottoms I have just given her a look, and she seems to have stopped doing it. At least when she comes over here any ways. She started doing that when she went away to college.
Shame is a necessary physiological function, and one of our 10 core emotions. I have a whole video series on it, but here's the shortcut to shame and guilt.
https://www.zephyrwellness.org/media/2021/2/12/emotional-functioning/#shame
Much of this anti-public-pajama attention (with which I am generally in agreement) focuses on females, but there is (I think) an often ignored male equivalent: sweatpants. Somehow these have migrated from athletic gear to semi-formal wear, and it's as unfortunate a trend as public pajamas. (I say this as someone who spent much of his 20s running around in public in his underwear, until shame kicked in.)
I favour an appropriate degree of applied shame in public; not too much, not too little. We have too little at the moment. That said, The Food Professor's posting of photos of actual individual humans seems like a little too much.
"Connectivity" has turned the inside out. Hunter-gathers (of look at me looking at you) & village life (remember The Village People?) are upon us.
But pendulums swing. Scythes do, too.
For "shaming" to be effective, the people being shamed have to have a sense of shame; i.e., an understanding that what they are doing is wrong. That, unfortunately, is missing from many people today (of all ages).
Was the young woman responding to your photo, or was this pulled from somewhere else? If it was you, my apologies for the stupidity of the young woman. I was stupid once as well - it is painful to hear their nonsense and I often wonder if I was just as bad with my babbling.
Shame is essential for a culture. It can go very wrong - like stoning a woman to death for binging 'shame' to the family, but a functional society uses it appropriately. I don't want my airline pilot in pajamas and I assume that goofy young women does not either. You intuitively know if someone can't pay attention to their uniform, they may not be paying attention to other more important things. It isn't just pajamas. So many are so fat. If grocery stores had truth in advertising, most of the items would be deemed hazardous. This, of course, would include my wine, which is a vice I am not giving up.
Fun article! However, I didn't know that PJs in public was a liberal trend. My very liberal young adult daughter finds the trend lame and stupid (and would probably not be caught wearing PJs in public even if the house WAS on fire). I also find it ridiculous. It's odd that you see it mostly limited to women - I actually see more young men doing it. However, if we are talking about demographic groups, I think it is almost exclusively white people under 45 who do it. Finally, I don't think it's something worth shaming. Yes, most of them are just being slobs. But you may end up taking a picture of a frantic mom who had to urgently drive to a pharmacy to pick up her sick kid's meds and electrolytes. Kinda not worth it. I'd save shaming for truly shameful things - like men entering female spaces or women cheering such men.
Shame is not to be saved for special occasions, but rather it's a "hold the line everywhere" type of thing that's devolved into far more degenerative societal behaviors. See my comment below and video for more!