I left a lot out, but ty for your absurd judgements when you never lived or survived all I have. You're a piece of work, lady. I'm sure you would have let that woman who killed her kids off.
You should connect with substack author Holly Mathnerd, who survived her own childhood growing up in the Christian Church Taliban of southern Mississippi. She may be willing to connect and give you some helpful advice, or at least a sympathetic ear.
Also check out her friend Josh Slocum at his substack Disaffected.
My mom is similar. It took lifelong work to be free and not have this shadow following me around emotionally. We are the neglected and abused children of the 60โs and 70โs โwomenโs liberationโ. My mom thinks sheโs been an outstanding mother. I hope for godโs justice. I had to move a continent away from her to feel safer. I grew up in a demon pit. Now when I look at pictures of innocent beautiful little 6-year old girl that lost her dad because her mother cut the only reliable relationship in my life, I start to cry. The sadness in the eyes of this 6-year old are hard to bear, especially as a mother myself now. I want to take that girl in and love on her. My biggest accomplishment in life was not repeating the pattern she instilled in me.
I'm so sorry all that happened to you ๐ข That was such a poisonous environment to grow up in. It took a lot to bear your soul to the public ๐ค I'm saddened by some of the comments but not surprised given the backwards upside-down society we are living in. I'm glad you broke the cycle with your own daughter ๐ค Sending you hugs โฅ๏ธ
Like mine, your motherโs generation was built on fear and self-loathing likely from a lifetime of Donna Reed repression, social coercion, perpetual judging by the cultural thumpers and โbe seen and not heardโ groupthink.
You are a living testimonial of what โbreaking the chainsโ looks like. I wholeheartedly applaud you for your vulnerability and transparency!
My dear sister, my heart is breaking for you, and yet I am so deeply proud of you for telling the truth. The enemy of our souls destroys us with secrets, and God heals us in the light of truth. You exposed this truth at great personal cost, and I am cheering you on. You are brave and beautiful and amazing!! I wish I could hug you as you cry and help heal the parts she tried to destroy. She did notโฆ she could notโฆ because your Heavenly Father was giving you the power to resist. Your healing journey is helping others. Donโt let the evil spewed at you deter you from your mission. I pray many will listen and have their eyes opened. This is truth. You are right. And you are safe behind the prayers put up around you.
What a condescending response. She sounds justifiably angry and resolved to me, and quite clear headed. And I don't think she was asking for your advice.
Right to lifers must love this one. This ambiguous reference to the Left is unexplained, unless it is understood that abortion equates with leftwing. Such a muddled account.
If we are right to lifers, does that make you a right to deather? This is about a death cult that has sucked innocent people in by rhetoric that takes away responsibility and beauty and steals peace. I beg you to consider the ramifications of this thinking. I believe you are better than that, and can escape the darkness of this view.
Golly, what a right to deather? Assisted suicide? Please define a death cult as I have no idea what is meant by that. Now if you are talking about pregnancy terminiations chosen freely by women, if course I'm behind those.
A time is coming when women will eat their own children, and when they see a woman oppose filiphage, they will attack her, saying, 'You are mad; you are not like us.' - St Anthony (paraphrase)
It sounds like your mom was also a victim of her experiences. By definition you cannot know which outcomes of you own "stuff" will affect your daughter, until she grows up .. and hopefully views you as a human (as I hope you might try to view your mom). Nearly every parent firmly believes they are correcting things that they experienced and "doing it better" with their child. But as long as we judge some people as evil and excuse others as traumatized, the cycles will continue.
You would have let Lindsay Clancy off after murdering her babies. It's glaringly evident. Women like you with your toxic empathy are why the world burns and children are sacrificed.
I left a lot out, but ty for your absurd judgements when you never lived or survived all I have. You're a piece of work, lady. I'm sure you would have let that woman who killed her kids off.
You should connect with substack author Holly Mathnerd, who survived her own childhood growing up in the Christian Church Taliban of southern Mississippi. She may be willing to connect and give you some helpful advice, or at least a sympathetic ear.
Also check out her friend Josh Slocum at his substack Disaffected.
Thanks for your brutal honesty. I'm trying to decide who among my acquaintances is ready to digest this.
My mom is similar. It took lifelong work to be free and not have this shadow following me around emotionally. We are the neglected and abused children of the 60โs and 70โs โwomenโs liberationโ. My mom thinks sheโs been an outstanding mother. I hope for godโs justice. I had to move a continent away from her to feel safer. I grew up in a demon pit. Now when I look at pictures of innocent beautiful little 6-year old girl that lost her dad because her mother cut the only reliable relationship in my life, I start to cry. The sadness in the eyes of this 6-year old are hard to bear, especially as a mother myself now. I want to take that girl in and love on her. My biggest accomplishment in life was not repeating the pattern she instilled in me.
Gen X really survived these women, didnโt we? Iโm so glad you were able to get away. You deserve happiness and healing.
I'm so sorry all that happened to you ๐ข That was such a poisonous environment to grow up in. It took a lot to bear your soul to the public ๐ค I'm saddened by some of the comments but not surprised given the backwards upside-down society we are living in. I'm glad you broke the cycle with your own daughter ๐ค Sending you hugs โฅ๏ธ
Ty Jeanie. Weird how I got more nastiness on Substack than X.
Like mine, your motherโs generation was built on fear and self-loathing likely from a lifetime of Donna Reed repression, social coercion, perpetual judging by the cultural thumpers and โbe seen and not heardโ groupthink.
You are a living testimonial of what โbreaking the chainsโ looks like. I wholeheartedly applaud you for your vulnerability and transparency!
An incredible piece that took a lot of courage to write. Iโm praying for you. ๐
So many of us had these experiences. Thank you for speaking about a topic that has not yet come to be but keeps getting shoved down.
My dear sister, my heart is breaking for you, and yet I am so deeply proud of you for telling the truth. The enemy of our souls destroys us with secrets, and God heals us in the light of truth. You exposed this truth at great personal cost, and I am cheering you on. You are brave and beautiful and amazing!! I wish I could hug you as you cry and help heal the parts she tried to destroy. She did notโฆ she could notโฆ because your Heavenly Father was giving you the power to resist. Your healing journey is helping others. Donโt let the evil spewed at you deter you from your mission. I pray many will listen and have their eyes opened. This is truth. You are right. And you are safe behind the prayers put up around you.
I recommend Rachelโs Vineyard a healing retreat for post abortive women. Thousands of women have been blessed by it.
Blessings on you for all the honest hard work you have done.
Here is an interview I did with the Founder of Rachelโs Vineyard. https://youtu.be/Lrukvdu2Bpg?si=Jp7M8KD0nTlxUwe-
Tyvm for this. It's very helpful.
My pleasure. Youโre not alone.
Sounds like you should get into therapy. I'm sure there are good ones in your area.
Iโve had decades of therapy, thanks. Thatโs kind of how you keep the cycle from perpetuating.
What a condescending response. She sounds justifiably angry and resolved to me, and quite clear headed. And I don't think she was asking for your advice.
Right to lifers must love this one. This ambiguous reference to the Left is unexplained, unless it is understood that abortion equates with leftwing. Such a muddled account.
No one can help you be smarter. You're just not.
And that's usually the reaction when one questions the orthodoxy.
If we are right to lifers, does that make you a right to deather? This is about a death cult that has sucked innocent people in by rhetoric that takes away responsibility and beauty and steals peace. I beg you to consider the ramifications of this thinking. I believe you are better than that, and can escape the darkness of this view.
Golly, what a right to deather? Assisted suicide? Please define a death cult as I have no idea what is meant by that. Now if you are talking about pregnancy terminiations chosen freely by women, if course I'm behind those.
A time is coming when women will eat their own children, and when they see a woman oppose filiphage, they will attack her, saying, 'You are mad; you are not like us.' - St Anthony (paraphrase)
It sounds like your mom was also a victim of her experiences. By definition you cannot know which outcomes of you own "stuff" will affect your daughter, until she grows up .. and hopefully views you as a human (as I hope you might try to view your mom). Nearly every parent firmly believes they are correcting things that they experienced and "doing it better" with their child. But as long as we judge some people as evil and excuse others as traumatized, the cycles will continue.
You would have let Lindsay Clancy off after murdering her babies. It's glaringly evident. Women like you with your toxic empathy are why the world burns and children are sacrificed.
Did your mom teach you how to become an asshole, or did it just come naturally?
Deb, hurt people hurt people. Who hurt you? You need help. Please seek it and stop beating up innocent people.
Hahahaha, nothing like living your life quoting self-help books. Lol
Peace be with you ๐ธ
And with you also.