Sounds like a big issue here is social media. Put down your phones. Get out in your communities. Quit stereotyping by social media. It isn't real life.
"They are, in some cases, so condescending that they make women sound like nothing more than a man's remote womb." This is it, and a remote womb that will shrivel and be miserable if one cell is spent thinking of something besides being pregnant. Males are never condescended to the way women are treated, with the pat on the head after telling them what is best for them.
"A woman must find a good man before starting a family. That has become more difficult because everyone is lost in these little boxes."
A good man means one who is able and willing to play the role of provider and protector. These men used to be everywhere. But feminism changed that by demanding that women gain 'equality' with men, which translates as competing with men in the male workplace with the added advantage of state backed programs for women, preferential hiring of women, women only scholarships and the unfair distribution of taxes from men to women. Now 60% of college students are women and women in their 20's earn more than men.
The reason why this is a problem is that women still want the traditional relationship dynamic where the man pays for stuff. And of course women NEED to rely on men in this way if they want to start a family and raise the children properly (ie not subject them to the horrors of daycare).
So feminism has done all it can to eliminate the kinds of men that most decent women want and all children need.
"They are, in some cases, so condescending that they make women sound like nothing more than a man's remote womb."
A man who treats a woman this way will still provide for her and be present in the household. Women who treat men like a sperm bank will often exclude the man from her and their children, while continuing to extract money off him via the state (men with guns). Often she will poison the children against their father, saying he does not want to be a father to them (when in fact he is desperate to be in their lives). So while the men might be being condescending, their female counterparts are being outright evil (to both the man and their children).
Also many women go to bars or date men just to get free drinks and free meals with no intention of actually having sex, or looking for a long term relationship. This is also exploitative and literally the objectification of men (treating men as free vending machines for drinks, food and ego flattery).
When it comes to reproduction and relationships women generally have all the power (socially and legally). This is why it is much harder for women to retain integrity and value in the modern era. The power of social media, dating apps, modern makeup and fashion, filters, instagram, only fans etc only makes it even harder.
"Even if a young lady finds a man of integrity who respects and values her"
The more integrity men have the more picky they are about who they respect and value. Feminism has created a lot of women who think that they need to FIND men who respect and value them, instead of BECOMING a woman of high quality through hard work and self discipline. Smartphones and social media apps make things very hard because they give women the superficial feeling of having value (lots of attention) which is not real value.
I love you girl! Thank you for the explanation too bad not enough people who need to hear it will. I am childless, I have a few cats. I have a husband too, but I didn't finally find the right one until I was almost 36, we have been married for over a decade now. I wanted children & a family but had no education, skills or decent family to rely upon to do something like this and very little options in men at the time. If I had kids it would have been poverty, welfare and I wasn't going to do that, I could barely take care of myself. I am too old now to have kids, I wish conservatives understood that taking on the well being and safety of a human being takes a lot of $ and support which most do not have anymore, they go insult people and then wonder why so many don't like them. I wish they would get this hot and bothered about our economy and taxes among other things they don't discuss much anymore. I often hear them regale everyone about how much they went without haircuts and new clothes to homeschool (a luxury most cannot afford), I wish they would ask why they had to do that in the 1st place.
Having lived abroad, and watched as my friend built a family in France, support systems can be provided by national health care. That "pre birth Mary Poppins" is free doula and pre-natal care in France. After birth a person is assigned to come to your home to clean and do household tasks while you recover from birth. and you can get a lactation visiting nurse as well. For everyone. for free. With families far-flung and extended family no longer in the home, this is a godsend.
Yet, with all those advantages, the birth rates in France (as with most of Europe) continue to decline. I would agree with the author that there are additional spiritual and emotional issues preventing more people from having children.
Sounds like a big issue here is social media. Put down your phones. Get out in your communities. Quit stereotyping by social media. It isn't real life.
"They are, in some cases, so condescending that they make women sound like nothing more than a man's remote womb." This is it, and a remote womb that will shrivel and be miserable if one cell is spent thinking of something besides being pregnant. Males are never condescended to the way women are treated, with the pat on the head after telling them what is best for them.
"A woman must find a good man before starting a family. That has become more difficult because everyone is lost in these little boxes."
A good man means one who is able and willing to play the role of provider and protector. These men used to be everywhere. But feminism changed that by demanding that women gain 'equality' with men, which translates as competing with men in the male workplace with the added advantage of state backed programs for women, preferential hiring of women, women only scholarships and the unfair distribution of taxes from men to women. Now 60% of college students are women and women in their 20's earn more than men.
The reason why this is a problem is that women still want the traditional relationship dynamic where the man pays for stuff. And of course women NEED to rely on men in this way if they want to start a family and raise the children properly (ie not subject them to the horrors of daycare).
So feminism has done all it can to eliminate the kinds of men that most decent women want and all children need.
This video explains it very well.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qDhde8MSwBA
"They are, in some cases, so condescending that they make women sound like nothing more than a man's remote womb."
A man who treats a woman this way will still provide for her and be present in the household. Women who treat men like a sperm bank will often exclude the man from her and their children, while continuing to extract money off him via the state (men with guns). Often she will poison the children against their father, saying he does not want to be a father to them (when in fact he is desperate to be in their lives). So while the men might be being condescending, their female counterparts are being outright evil (to both the man and their children).
Also many women go to bars or date men just to get free drinks and free meals with no intention of actually having sex, or looking for a long term relationship. This is also exploitative and literally the objectification of men (treating men as free vending machines for drinks, food and ego flattery).
When it comes to reproduction and relationships women generally have all the power (socially and legally). This is why it is much harder for women to retain integrity and value in the modern era. The power of social media, dating apps, modern makeup and fashion, filters, instagram, only fans etc only makes it even harder.
"Even if a young lady finds a man of integrity who respects and values her"
The more integrity men have the more picky they are about who they respect and value. Feminism has created a lot of women who think that they need to FIND men who respect and value them, instead of BECOMING a woman of high quality through hard work and self discipline. Smartphones and social media apps make things very hard because they give women the superficial feeling of having value (lots of attention) which is not real value.
I love you girl! Thank you for the explanation too bad not enough people who need to hear it will. I am childless, I have a few cats. I have a husband too, but I didn't finally find the right one until I was almost 36, we have been married for over a decade now. I wanted children & a family but had no education, skills or decent family to rely upon to do something like this and very little options in men at the time. If I had kids it would have been poverty, welfare and I wasn't going to do that, I could barely take care of myself. I am too old now to have kids, I wish conservatives understood that taking on the well being and safety of a human being takes a lot of $ and support which most do not have anymore, they go insult people and then wonder why so many don't like them. I wish they would get this hot and bothered about our economy and taxes among other things they don't discuss much anymore. I often hear them regale everyone about how much they went without haircuts and new clothes to homeschool (a luxury most cannot afford), I wish they would ask why they had to do that in the 1st place.
Having lived abroad, and watched as my friend built a family in France, support systems can be provided by national health care. That "pre birth Mary Poppins" is free doula and pre-natal care in France. After birth a person is assigned to come to your home to clean and do household tasks while you recover from birth. and you can get a lactation visiting nurse as well. For everyone. for free. With families far-flung and extended family no longer in the home, this is a godsend.
Yet, with all those advantages, the birth rates in France (as with most of Europe) continue to decline. I would agree with the author that there are additional spiritual and emotional issues preventing more people from having children.