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Sex Education Is Not About Inclusivity-It's About Education
There's a Difference Between Teaching Kids And Sexualizing Them
Many millennials remember the late ‘90s as a time of gang violence and pervasive teenage drug use. The technology that has changed so much of our daily lives wasn't yet widespread. It was a transition period from the good old days to the technological-soaked days we now know. Although crime and violence were much higher back then, in many ways our society today seems much more chaotic and dangerous.
I remember very clearly a D.A.R.E officer coming to my 4th-grade class to talk about drugs. The D.A.R.E program (Drug Abuse Resistance Education) I credit with keeping me from falling too far into the rabbit hole where many of my childhood friends remain. The officer came into our class with a briefcase that contained a myriad of drugs; marijuana, cocaine, meth, LSD, crack, heroin, etc. He told us how each drug was used (snorted, smoked, injected), and how it would make us feel. He educated us with a negative lens. These are drugs, they’ll make you feel good but they’ll destroy your body, mind, and life. I left that class with all the knowledge I’d ever receive on the drugs that only a few years later I’d be awash in.
As a parent, I believe children need to understand the inherent dangers of our world. As much as we’d like to keep kids in a safe bubble they will find their way out and into dangerous situations. This is why we must ensure they understand how to stay safe and what to do when they find themselves faced with drug usage, violence, or sex.
However, there is a growing movement from the left to not just teach kids about adult situations but to rob them of their innocence as young as possible and indoctrinate them with graphic information about sex. Radical progressive educators proudly state that children are ‘sexual beings’ from birth. In schools across the country in every state, city, and town, liberal educators are providing students with pornographic books that encourage kids to consume porn online. They teach about blowjobs and sex toys. Anal sex is apparently another important lesson kids must learn.
Efforts to group boys and girls together to discuss this explicit sex ed are being pushed by activists, despite public sentiment. A recent Virginia poll (from a very liberal area) shows a vast majority of parents, teachers, and students oppose this-yet the activists persist.
In an attempt to ‘queer’ youth the focus seems to be on anal sex. References to heterosexual sex are often accompanied with an emphasis on abortion. Focusing on marriage, abstinence, having babies, or committed relationships is now a thing of the past.
All of this is being pushed under the line of ‘inclusivity’. The heavy focus is on a tiny segment of the population over the mass majority so the minority can be ‘seen’. We apparently all need to learn how to properly insert items into our rectums to be inclusive. We shouldn't separate students by sex and teach them about their bodies and allow them to ask important questions because what if ONE kid feels left out? So now all kids will be left out, not properly educated on what pertains to them, and will be too embarrassed to ask questions.
This is all happening while teens are reporting an increase in sexual violence, mental illnesses, and suicides. Girls are being pressured by their boyfriends to do things they are not comfortable with such as strangulation (or breath play) and anal sex to disastrous results. Anal sex is thought to be easier and more pleasurable for men than for women. Many women have horrific outcomes from anal sex including needing surgery and in at least one tragic case permanent incontinence for a young teen.
Humans have been having sex for hundreds of thousands of years, so why all of a sudden do kids need graphic instructions on sex now? The reason varies from inclusion to safety to the more prevalent usage of porn. They say LGBTQ+ kids need to learn how to have specific kink sex safely, which implies that LGBTQ+ people are inherently perverted, a stereotype the LGB community has fought for decades. They frequently cite the increasing use of porn as a reason to ‘teach’ explicit sex so kids can have sex ‘correctly’ and not like what they see in porn. Pornography isn't real and many dangerous acts are depicted so teachers must teach students how to do these acts safely, they say.
The pushback from conservatives and normies is painted as irrational, hateful, fearful, or prudish. Of course, there is the tried and true ‘it's not happening’ argument we often hear from progressives. But despite the progressive see no evil mantra the evidence kids are being sexualized across the country is overwhelming. It's further evident when laws are passed to stop the explicit content in schools and progressives adamantly oppose it. If it's not happening, why oppose laws to prevent it from happening?
In the late ‘90s, aggressive campaigns against smoking were implemented across the country. The huge tobacco lobby was not able to withstand the mounting pressure coming from rising healthcare costs due to smoking. In Arizona, we were subjected to shocking ads depicting the horrible effects of smoking which cut the rate of smoking significantly. The rate of smoking has remained down since then as laws across the country worked to make cigarettes more expensive and more difficult to smoke. Smoking became no longer a casual way to relax but a difficult and expensive habit to maintain.
If we are truly worried about the rising trend of mental illness, and risky sexual behavior in kids rather than sexualizing them we should mount a '90s-style aggressive campaign against it. Just like we did with drugs and smoking. Going after porn manufacturers and distributors could quell many dangers facing kids. Teaching kids about sex through an informational and negative lens when necessary will help them to adequately understand the dangers. Rather than pretending kids need to be taught how to strangle ‘safely’, we should be pushing to make it harder for kids to see strangulation, and when they do see it-to understand it’s wrong and dangerous.
In the ‘90s we were taught about many of the dangers of the world through a negative lens and it worked to mitigate a rising tide of violence, teen sex, and drug use. As we see that tide rising again, why not implement the tried and true strategy to stop it? Bonus if we help many adults along the way.
Sex Education Is Not About Inclusivity-It's About Education
Thank you so much for writing this, Rebecca. This is the kind of thing that keeps me, a mother of little boys, up at night.
Ms. Velo,
Kudos for your realistic approach to this unsettling trend. Recognition of this problem is not "prudish", as many would have us believe. No one (even Conservatives) cares what CONSENTING ADULTS do in the privacy of their bedrooms, and you have clearly pointed out that difference. Teaching kids sex ed for health reasons is necessary - teaching sexual activities and boundaries (or the lack thereof) is monumentally inappropriate, and should be up to individuals to discover and decide for themselves. I particularly like when people are called out for trying to play two conflicting sides of the same coin - "If it's not happening, why oppose laws to prevent it from happening?" sums this up perfectly. Great job.